Hot Gay Male Says Celibacy is Way to Go, Just Stock Up on Some Great Porn!
01.21.08 (12:08 pm) posted by Genia
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Afterthought 245 pm: I'm wondering if the ex-gay movement (especially people like these) will pick this interview and other articles like these that illustrate healthy sexual behavior in the gay community as an example of how homosexuals can indeed change their behavior and abstain from sex -- if we really wanted to.
--original post below--
I just read an article on Gay.com that reminded me of all the great things I learned in therapy years ago.
After the weekend I just had, the article couldn't have come at a better time.
The Sexy Celibate
is the latest installment in a series that looks at modern gay relationships. "Jared," the article's subject, is a
36 year-old handsome
gay male who has been celibate for 5 years. He says:
I was meeting people and didn't care whether they found me attractive,
because I wasn't going to sleep with them anyway. And I was connecting
with new people that I probably wouldn't have gotten to know because a
big part of the gay bar environment and party scene was about hooking
up and that wasn't where my head was.
It was great.
Of course, lots of people are bothered by Jared's decision to practice celibacy. It doesn't surprise me that
some people see Jared as a freak of nature. I mean, just because they don't know how to respect themselves enough to
wait for the right person means no one else should have that ability either, right?
In the Spring of 2006, I did a lot of dating. I was out with a different
woman every every few days or so. Shawn, a former friend,
assumed (and started spreading the rumor!) that I was having sex with a different woman every few days.
In his small mind, it was impossible to date without including sex at the end of the evening.
The assumption that homosexuality means promiscuity is how the narrowest of the most narrow minds work.
I suppose a large percentage of the LGBT community assumes that "dating" means there's
some kind of sexual relationship going on --
and if there isn't, there should be! So Jared countered that by simply not dating at all.
Personally, I love dating because I like the company of another woman. I like touching.
I like smelling her hair. I like rubbing her shoulders. Jared
believes we can nourish our bodies with physical affection without
sexual contact and without dating.
This was probably the one statement I agree with the most: " . . . I
think life is too short to be in bars all the time or on the Internet
looking for sex, or, for that matter, looking for a relationship." I'd like to
add that looking for any kind of relationship
in a bar is a really bad idea -- even if it's just a friendship. In my opinion, you really get to see
the ugly side of a person who relies very heavily on a bar and its patrons to provide him with love,
affection, or attention. The Cheers
fantasy is just that, folks, a fantasy.
You will not find real love, respect, admiration, or affection
in a bar.
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