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    Tryin' to Raise Two Bad Kids On Your Own
    02.27.06 (9:23 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    My oldest son is 13. For those of you who have raised a teenager, this post may bring back horrid memories of times when you just knew you were losing your mind. For others, you may have fond memories of watching your perfect teenager grow up gracefully.

    So last night I was waiting for a phone call from a friend. We don't talk often, but since my operation on Thursday, I've been much more communicative with the people I care about. At approximately 6pm, I ask my teenager to bring me the phone and I notice my friend's number on the caller ID. My 13 year old son decided I didn't need to talk to anyone, so he told my friend I was sleeping. I wasn't. Our conversation went something like:

    Me: Why didn't you bring me the phone when it rang? And why didn't I hear it ring? Were you on the phone?

    Son: You were sleeping.

    Me: No I wasn't.

    I'm staring at him now. He's silent.

    Me: Were you on the phone?

    Silence.

    Me: Boy! Do you pay the phone bill around here?

    Silence.

    Me: Well? Do you?

    Son: (mumbling) No.

    Me: The next time someone calls for me, I expect to talk to them. Understand?

    Silence.

    Me: Boy! I'm talkin' to you.

    Son: Fine! (he storms off)

    Me: (yelling) DO NOT make me get out this chair and come after you!

    He returns quietly and stands in front of me. I guess he's afraid I'll beat him down with my crutch or something.

    Me: I would like it if you warmed some soup for me.

    Son: (quietly) Ok.

    He walks off and I'm left sitting there with a headache. I can feel my foot pounding too. I need more drugs, I think.

    There are a lot of discussions like these in my house. Many of them start with, "Don't talk to your brother like he's your bitch!" and end with, "Now, I would like it if you bring me a cup of coffee."

    This morning, I was up at my usual time to get the kids off to school. I shouldn't be driving since it's my right foot that's all jacked up. But, my babies have to get to school and I don't have anyone who can get them there besides me. I usually drop my youngest off first, then turn around and take my oldest to middle school. As I was dropping my youngest off, Tupac's Dear Mama comes on the radio. I turn it up and glance over at my oldest.

    Me: Ever heard this song?

    Son: Yeah, it's kinda old.

    Me: But it's a good song. I never really cared for Tupac much when he was alive, but I listen to the lyrics more now that he's dead. Listen.

    We listen in silence. I glance over at him once and I noticed he looked a bit sad. Disappointed in himself.

    Son: We are pretty bad kids, huh?

    Me: Yeah, but you're my favorite bad kids.

    He got out the car and actually said goodbye this morning. Usually, he just hops out and struts off -- off to hang with his friends and bitch about his crazy mama.

    It feels like it's getting harder and harder to maintain my composure with him. I don't even deal with his moodiness anymore; I just send him to his room the second I see his attitude rising. His father is in Afghanistan (then off to Iraq) so I'm trying to remain as understanding as possible, without allowing him to terrify the entire household. There are times when I just wanna toss him out with nothing but the clothes on his back, but there are many more times when I just want to hold him and reassure him that I'm not the enemy.

    Last week, we talked about the day he was born. All the nurses wanted to play with my beautiful new baby boy. He had jet black, wavy, silky hair and the prettiest lips I've ever seen. I used to lay around for hours and just hold him -- smelling his hair and counting his toes.

    So much has changed.

    | # | Women's Issues | , , , , Word of the Day posit

    Bette Tells Tina to Move Out: The L Word 3.8
    02.26.06 (11:02 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Bette asks Tina to move out. FINALLY! Tina panics and claims she won't have any place to go. I think Tina forgot she has a great job making great money; she can certainly afford her own place. Bette tells Tina to move into the other bedroom since she doesn't want her having feelings for men while she's sleeping in her bed. Ouch! Something tells me Tina will use Angelica to hurt Bette -- kinda like she did before the child was even born.

    Carmen is losin' her mind. Since Alice is finally getting her shit together, I guess the producers have to make someone crazy! Carmen has a dream about Shane giving her ex Sherry the same tattoo they both got on their necks (in last week's episode). Yes! More lesbians with matching tattoos. Carmen gets pissed with Shane -- supposedly because of the dream -- and Shane ends up in the doghouse shithouse.

    Kit's in the recording studio with Betty and Nona recording her own music. Angus is making himself a pain in the ass. I'm sorry, but I'm not a Betty fan so I hardly paid attention to this scene. I'm STILL trying to figure out WHO those girls had to fuck to get their music featured on The L Word.

    Dana's hair starts falling out. Alice sets an appointment with Shane so Shane can shave Dana's head. A touching moment happens between Dana and Alice. Dana shows Alice her mastectomy scar.

    Helena and Dylan make out like rabbits. This time, Dylan chased Helena. It was a very hot sex scene. Thank gawd for Showtime on Demand. I hit the rewind button and watched their sex scene a few times.

    Moira/Max is becoming quite the asshole. It's (literally) all that testosterone she/he is taking. Now, I could scream foul here and say it's really fucked up that the writers would have Max acting like a brute just because she/he is taking testosterone. Is there a universal comment about men in general goin' on here?

    Anyway, Max uses the men's bathroom for the first time. That was interesting to watch. Even though Max (as Moira) already knows how to pee standing up, he/she is completely delighted he has a "penis" he can whip out in the men's room now.

    I really liked the scene where Max and Dana begin to bond. In some way, Max's transformation helps Dana cope. Max tells Dana that her transformation is life and death for her, just as Dana's cancer is a life and death issue.

    Dana gets a standing ovation at a women's pro basketball game. It seems to lift her spirits a bit. The song we hear Kit singing while Dana's fans applaud her is really empowering. The song is about all the changes women go through -- together.

    And finally, it's nice to see Bette regaining control of her life. The episode ends with Bette at a spiritual retreat while Tina sits alone at home. I've NEVER been a Tina fan so it wouldn't bother me at all to see Tina's character go bye-bye.

    Next week: Dylan slaps Helena with a sexual harassment lawsuit. Ha! I knew that woman was up to no good. Carmen comes out to her Mom during what looks like another one of her childish fits. Angus proposes to Kit. And Max gets possessive and controlling with Jenny.

    | # | The L Word | , , , , , . Word of the Day apothegm

    Percocet is Bad, Vicodin is Good
    02.26.06 (1:29 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    It's 1:00 am and I'm up -- drinking ginger ale and taking 2 percocet and 1 vicoden. I broke my ankle at work and had to have surgery on Thursday. I broke it good, too -- so good, I'll be setting off alarms at the airport for awhile. I now have a metal plate where a healthy bone used to be.

    Ok, so what lessons did I learn here?

    1. Snow boots are no good on a sheet of ice.
    2. The owner of the company where I work really is an asshole. "Were you wearing boots?" he asks the second he sees me completing a worker's compensation accident report. "I'm so sorry to hear about your bad luck" would have been a more appropriate response.
    3. Fuck buddies make lousy bedside companions when you really need a friend.
    4. Percocet = bad. Vicodin = good. REEEEEEAL GOOD.
    5. Children make the best bedside nurses. My children do anyway.
    6. Nurses never look as hot in real life as they do on television.
    7. I am the biggest fuckin' baby when I don't feel well.
    8. I really need to marry a hot physical therapist -- kinda like the one who taught me how to go up and down stairs using my crutches. She.was.FINE.
    9. Hospital food is horrid. 'course I knew that already.
    10. Porn is the worst thing to watch while waiting for your pain meds to kick in.

    Well, I'm heading back to my thrift store recliner, the one I bought so I could sleep downstairs instead of struggling to get back upstairs to my bed. I feel my pain meds taking over.

    | # | General | , , , , , , , , , , . Word of the Day cogent

    Drug Deal Gone Bad Involves the Cops
    02.20.06 (2:37 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    WTF?

    Guy Seeks Police Help with Bad Drug Deal:

    A 52-year-old man from the German town of Darmstadt tried in vain to get a refund for 400 euros ($475) worth of what he said was "bad marijuana" from his dealer before turning to the police for help, according to authorities.


    I know a girl who played the race card after she was ripped off during a drug deal. She drove to Milwaukee, WI to meet a dealer. She gave the guy a large sum of cash and then waited for him to return to her car with the drugs. She waited over 3 hours and he never returned. She then went to the police department and told them a Black guy took money from her glove compartment after she offered him a ride to Milwaukee. She said she figured they would believe her since she looked like an innocent, white, college girl.

    Drugs make ya do really stupid shit, eh?

    Note: My L Word review will be posted tonight.

    | # | General | , , , , , , , , . Word of the Day titivate
    The L Word 3.6, Dana Has a Mastectomy
    02.13.06 (9:17 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    This week on The L Word: heterosexuality ran rampant! I say that because the issue of bisexuality was never really addressed with Tina or Dylan -- Helena's love interest. Instead, there was a lot of talk about "straight women." I was confused by that a bit. I felt the storyline was implying that Tina and Dylan are either straight or gay -- nothing in between. Tina even slipped once and used the word "we" when discussing straight women. She warned Helena to stay away from Dylan because it never works out the way you want it to. Does that mean Tina's about to break Bette's heart and run off with a guy? If so, that's sooooo Sinead O'Connor. Moving on with the heterosexuals:

    Kit and Angus have sex. I was less than thrilled with the scene. If they're gonna have heterosexual sex on The L Word, I wanna see absolutely HOT heterosexual sex, damnit!

    There was more gay male sex -- sorta. Moira/Max gets her cock sucked by Billie. Jenny walks in and catches them. I thought she handled it quite well. Does this now make Moira a straight woman or a gay man? Or is she just queer? Queer seems to be the term many I-used-to-be-a-gay-female -now-I'm-a-gay-male use to define themselves.

    Moira discusses using testosterone and hopes she can get it illegally from one of Billie's friends. Oh, that Billie. He can't wait until Moira is completely Max. Moira can't wait either!

    Helena sleeps with Dylan. Finally, more lesbian sex on The L Word! Surprise, surprise!

    Dana goes in for her mastectomy and the doctors learn the cancer has already spread.

    I was so disappointed with Laura's (Dana's partner) behavior. The doctor told her he couldn't talk to her about Dana's condition since she's not technically Dana's family. Laura stands there like a bump on a log. So, Laura calls Dana's parents -- who end up treating her like she's nothing in Dana's life. Laura finally calls Alice, who comes in, stands up for Laura, and gets her inside to see Dana. It was a very interesting scene to watch.

    Tina and Bette discuss Tina's attraction to men. I was surprised by Bette's calm response. She tells Tina that she thinks she should sleep with Josh (the guy Tina's attracted to) because she feels they both need to know where things are going. It was good to see Bette tell Tina that she couldn't promise she would still be around once Tina figured out what she wanted.

    Carmen learns Shane slept with her ex, Sherry. She was NOT happy about that! By the end of the episode, the two had made up -- with Shane promising she will try that whole monogamy thing. Sidenote: if you do a search for the word monogamy on Google, the thing about the birds comes up as the first result. Too funny! If you watched the show, you know why it's so damn funny.

    And finally, Jenny gets a book deal. I can't figure out for the life of me why anybody would want to publish her rantings. I thought it was a low blow when Carmen says to Moira, "It must be nice to have a girlfriend with some money." I'm really not liking Carmen much these days.

    Next week: Carmen and Shane confront Moira, thinking Jenny is shootin' up illegal drugs. They learn Jenny is shootin' Moira up with illegal doses of testosterone!

    Jenny meets her new editor, and loses her new editor, all within a matter of minutes.

    | # | The L Word | , liberal, , , , , , . Word of the Day concupiscence
    Sharebuilder.com Unethical Business Practices?
    02.13.06 (10:30 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    I'm having some issues with Sharebuilder.com, but before I divulge the details, I wonder if anyone has had problems with them -- or know someone who has.

    | # | General | , , , , fraud, . Word of the Day concupiscence
    Send Bin Laden on Hunting Trip With Cheney
    02.13.06 (9:19 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Note: Updates to this post will happen as new information surfaces.

    Dick Cheney shot his hunting partner, Harry Whittington, while hunting on a private ranch in Texas.

    Now, I had to make sure the injured party was ok before I started making jokes about the situation. Since Whittington is listed in stable condition, let the jabs begin!

    Whittington was treated on the scene by Cheney's traveling medical detail before being taken by helicopter to a Corpus Christi hospital. He was in the intensive care unit at Christus Spohn Health System and listed in stable condition yesterday evening.


    This whole situation gives us new ideas about how to deal with Bin Laden. Just send him on a hunting trip with Dick Cheney. Make sure you send them to a private ranch in Texas!

    The first person who spots a political cartoon of Dick Cheney denying he ever shot Whittington, PLEASE send it to me!

    Other political cartoon ideas:

  • Cheney thinks Whittington has weapons of mass destruction
  • Whittington asks Cheney to marry him and come out the closet, so Cheney shoots him in "self-defense"
  • Cheney thinks Whittington is a part of Al Qaeda



  • Conservatives will scream foul because liberals are making fun of the situation. Fuck 'em! They would do the same thing if Bill Clinton or Al Gore accidentally shot someone on a hunting trip.

    Oh yeah, I'd love to read any conspiracy theories about this accident; the wilder, the better.

    Update, 12:55 pm:

    Let the conspiracy theories begin!

    Reporting Lag In Cheney Shooting:
    (CBS/AP) Questions are being raised about why it took the Bush administration a full day to disclose the news that Vice President Dick Cheney accidentally shot a companion on a weekend hunting trip. The incident occurred Saturday but was not reported publicly by the vice president's office for nearly 24 hours.


    Update: 02/14/06 1:20 pm

    CORPUS CHRISTI, Texas - The 78-year-old lawyer who was shot by Vice President Dick Cheney in a hunting accident has some birdshot lodged in his heart and he had "a minor heart attack" Tuesday morning, hospital officials said. Source: Hunter Shot by Cheney Has Heart Attack


    Update: 02/15/06 9:00 am

    Cheney Controversy Persists:

    Sources told ABC News that the vice president's team had debated issuing a statement early Sunday morning per the White House's request. But sources said Cheney's team decided it would be more credible to allow ranch owner and witness Katharine Armstrong to make the information public.

    Armstrong is the daughter of a former Halliburton official who hired Cheney as CEO.
    This should be no suprise; that Administration has always done things EXACTLY the way they please.

    Update: 10:45 am

    Edited Article on Cheney Shooting Removes Beer:

    If Google's a corporation non grata these days at least thank God for its cache function. That's the one that allows you to see a snapshot of a page even after it's been removed from the site.

    That's what happened with a little mention of beer at a pre-shooting party attended by the veep on MSNBC's website. According to David Allen . . .


    Update: 11:55 am

    Cheney to break silence on shooting accident:

    CORPUS CHRISTI, Texas (Reuters) -- Vice President Dick Cheney, publicly silent since accidentally shooting a Texas lawyer while hunting last week, will offer his first words on the incident Wednesday, the White House said.

    So far, local authorities have said the shooting was simply an accident with no misconduct involved.

    [...]

    But if Whittington were to die, local district attorney Carlos Valdez said there could be a more-thorough investigation, including possibly a grand jury probe that might end up issuing criminal charges such as negligence or reckless behavior.


    If I read that correctly, authorities won't bother going after Cheney unless Whittington dies -- regardles of the fact that there was indeed misconduct. Perhaps this is why that Administration thinks it can do whatever the hell it wants. Police don't give a fuck unless someone dies.

    Oh hey, view the Cheney/Whittington accident report. The details are pretty sparse.

    Update: 3:45 pm

    Cheney finally takes responsibilty for the hunting accident; however, he continues to defend the fact that he asked Armstrong to call the press. His reason makes little sense to me:

    Cheney said he had no regrets about his decision to allow his host, Katharine Armstrong, to disclose the accident by calling her local newspaper in Corpus Christi. ``I thought it made good sense for several reasons,'' Cheney said in the Fox interview.

    Giving the Account

    The vice president said Armstrong was an eyewitness to the incident, had grown up on the ranch and hunted there throughout her life, and was an ``acknowledged expert'' on hunting. Cheney added that he did not have a press aide traveling with him on the weekend trip.


    If I understand Cheney correctly, he's basically saying the public trusts Armstrong more than we trust the Vice President of the United States. Well . . . I would agree with that!

    ABC Australia has a condensed version of Cheney's comments: I'm to blame. . .

    Update: 02/18/06 3:15 pm

    VP Accident Tale Filled With Discrepancies

    Subheadings for the aricle: Blame, Drinking, Victim's Condition, License, Disclosure, Telling Washington.

    | # | Politics | , , , , , , , , , , , , . Word of the Day concupiscence
    Friday Link Whoring
    02.10.06 (7:02 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    More Friday Link Whoring!

    I decided to post interesting blogs I find right here in the post, instead of in the comments. Please visit at least 1 of these blogs before you post a blog in the comments section.

    Remember, you can post your own blog, or any blog you find interesting.

  • I'm Still Not a Feminist
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  • You Can Grow Up to Be Anything You Want, Little Girl


  • | # | Friday Link Whoring | , , , , liberal, , , , , , , , , , . Word of the Day autodidact
    Teenage Girls: Alcohol, Drugs, and Violence
    02.09.06 (8:40 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    The AP recently reported:

    The National Survey on Drug Use and Health, released by John Walters, the national drug policy director, indicates 1.5 million girls ages 12 to 17 started drinking alcohol in 2004, the most recent year for which data is available. That compares with 1.28 million boys.

    Among the same age group, 730,000 girls started smoking cigarettes in 2004, compared with 565,000 boys, and 675,000 girls starting using marijuana, compared with 577,000 boys, the survey found.

    The nationwide survey, based on interviews with 70,000 families, also found that girls surpassed boys in abusing prescription drugs. Of the youths surveyed in 2004, 14.4 percent of girls and 12.5 percent of boys reported misusing prescription drugs.


    For many young girls, the need for acceptance, approval, and belonging is crucial during teen years. Girls who feel isolated -- or who wish to avoid isolation -- are more likely to engage in risky behaviors (like drug use, alcohol use, and unprotected sex) just to fit in with their peers.

    The L Word's character Moira made a comment about female lobsters holding each other down when they're in a pot of water because women -- in general -- tend to believe "if I'm going down, everybody's going down with me." I know that seems like an odd connection to make here, but it certainly made sense to me when I heard it. I've stood in checkout lanes and listened to the two women in front of me making fun of the fat woman who just passed by: "ooo, why did she leave the house looking like that?" I've heard women stand around and make malicious comments about women they don't even know. When I was in high school, it was common knowledge that if you pissed off one of your female friends, she would make every attempt to make all your friends dislike you -- until you kissed her ass and made up with her. I can't say I ever knew any guys who behaved like that when they were upset with a friend. For a lot of girls in my high school, becoming an outcast was one of the worst things that could happen to you.

    The article "Fitting in is hard on everyone, teens find" offers a good example of just how cruel teenage girls can be to those who don't quite fit in:

    But while the Somalis can eagerly soak up that knowledge now, they also must learn to navigate a sometimes-cruel teenage world in which subtle differences in hairstyle, clothing, physique, friends, grades and extracurricular activities mark a student's place in a complicated and often unforgiving caste system. And in a process that many American teenagers find difficult, the Somali students -- and in particular, the five girls -- are under even more pressure to decipher where they belong.
    One girl, in the article Teenage Girls Buying into Gang Violence, says: "Hey, school's a dangerous place. You gotta do what ya gotta do -- fist, blade, or pop [gun]. . . . "

    In February 2004, an article at Center for Advancement of Health [More Sex Partners Means More Trouble for Teenage Girls] reported:
    Teenage girls who have sex with more than one partner in a short period of time are likely to engage in other risk behaviors such as fighting, binge drinking, smoking cigarettes, using cocaine or sniffing glue, according to results from a national survey of American high school youth.

    The study of more than 3,000 female students appears in the American Journal of Health Behavior.


    SafeYouth.org reports:

    Between 20 and 45% of boys who commit serious violent crimes by the age of 16 or 17 were violent as children, while 45 to 69% of violent girls were violent in childhood. The small group of teens that were engaged in serious violence before the age of 13 generally commit more crimes, and more serious crimes, than those teens that start later.
    Conservatives will claim that teenage girls raised in poor or single-parent households are most likely to engage in risky behaviors like drug use, alcohol abuse, and violence. But, the fact is these behaviors are present in all classes. Yes, even teenage girls from upper class, two-parent households engage in risky behaviors. As long as peer pressure exists and young girls are bombarded with pop culture images that tell them they're insignificant human beings if they're not a size 3, drug use, alcohol abuse, and violent behavior will continue to rise.

    | # | Women's Issues | , , , , , , , , , , . Word of the Day deus ex machina
    George Bush Wins Grammy for Most Broken Record
    02.09.06 (11:52 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    I swiped this post from: Comments from Left Field. I'm not ashamed.



    George Bush won a Grammy. I love it!

    King Of Zembla with a War On Terror Scoreboard.
    Mimus Pauly on the Enron Scandal
    The Angry Buddhist is back...
    The Heretik shows us Weird Scenes Inside The Data Mine


    | # | Politics and Tags: , , , , , , . Word of the Day: deus ex machina
    I Have the Right to Complain About The L Word
    02.09.06 (10:01 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    SistersTalk reader Cairo made the following comment: "The L word does not carry the responsiblity of representing EVERY lesbian lifestyle. Straight women across the country aren't freaking out because they don't identify with one of the desperate housewives . . . ." That comment grated my nerves; however, it prompted the following rant.

    I don't really care if straight women aren't complaining about representation on Desperate Housewives. Why would they anyway? The show is about beautiful, married, white women who live in big fancy homes, yet they're still desperate and unhappy. WHO -- in her right mind -- would want to see herself in any of those characters? To me, the show makes fun of all those straight married people who pretend they have perfect lives just so they can judge the way other people live their lives. Picking Desperate Housewives to illustrate what Cairo sees as whining from the lesbian community was a pretty poor example.

    In 60 seconds of channel hopping, I counted several dozen shows that represent one or more factions of the straight comunity. In 60 seconds of channel hopping on extended cable, I counted 127 shows about straight people. In 60 seconds of channel hopping, I counted two shows about homosexuals -- one show was on LOGO and the other show was a talk show about a man finding out his wife was a dyke.

    No, straight doctors don't look like doctors on ER and straight police don't look like the police on CSI. If doctors and police choose to keep quiet and allow the entertainment industry to grossly exaggerate things, then that's really their business -- and really, they have the right to keep quiet if they choose. I choose not to keep quiet about what I see as a pathetic attempt by The L Word to represent lesbians in LA because I know there are Black lesbians in LA! If the show was about lesbians in a small town like Chilton, WI, I wouldn't expect to see any Black lesbians on the show. Black people don't live in Chilton, WI!

    Cairo wants all of us folks who are complaining about The L Word to just wait for more shows that capitalize on lesbianism. I guess she's sure one of those future shows will do a better job with diversity -- as long as we stop complaining. I mean, straight women aren't complaining about Desperate Housewives, right?

    It's the year 2005 2006; why should thousands of non-white lesbians keep waiting for someone to acknowledge that? And if we don't complain, future shows about lesbians will simply spit out the same bullshit The L Word is giving us. Entertainment big shots will say, "well nobody compalined, so we figured it was ok to use anorexic white girls to represent all lesbians in the world."

    The only person who wouldn't complain about The L Word is a white lesbian who's happy to take whatever Hollywood will give us. I don't fit that description so I'll complain as much as I please.

    My biggest concern is what I view as a very real divide among Black women and white women. Even in the lesbian community -- one of the segments of our society that really needs a solid foundation -- Black women and white women haven't figured out how to work together. People like Cairo tell non-white lesbians to suck it up and wait. It's divide-and-conquer at its finest.

    For those who are interested in learning more about diversity in the lesbian community, please visit:

    Zuna Institute
    Audre Lorde on Being a Black Lesbian Feminist
    Sisters in the Life
    MySistahs
    British Born Chinese Lesbian
    Isn't it Queer (Queer Asian Pacific American
    South Bay Queer and Asian
    Lesbians of Color
    Lesbians of Color Chronology: 1950 - 1995
    Zami

    | # | The L Word and Tag: , , , . Word of the Day: deus ex machina
    Bisexuality Explored and Amplified on The L Word 3.5
    02.06.06 (10:43 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Bette learns about Tina's cyber sex adventures with men, and we watch Tina aggressively go after a hot young man she's working with. She gives him her number, never mentions her lesbian partner, and tells him to call her anytime. Umm, whatever. What a bitch.

    Alice attends bisexual speed dating at The Planet and takes Helena with her. Interesting. . . So, yeah, Alice meets her lesbian-vampire lover while speed dating. The woman is super hot, but really scares me a bit.

    Helena goes over to Dylan's house to watch some footage from a documentary. Dylan makes the moves on Helena, but her man interrupts the intimate moment. He doesn't catch them together, he just walks in the house and announces himself from another room. No sex for Helena! Yet.

    Dana learns she has breast cancer but won't tell her friends. She told them she was going in for a routine surgery. Laura doesn't seem quite ready to deal with Dana's medical issues all alone and asks Dana to tell her friends what's going on. There was a touching love scene between Dana and Laura near the end of the episode. I thought it was ironic that we see Laura enter the room wearing a "wife-beater" t-shirt and you could see her nipples through the t-shirt. Speaking of which, there were lots of breast shots in this episode. Boob shots: Alice, Uta (Alice's vampire lover), Dana, and Laura. Nobody's breasts impressed at all. Anyway . . .

    Alice is still losing her mind (she's dating a vampire, for christ's sake!). I think Carmen is losing her mind, too. She's a bit on the possessive side. Not to mention bitchy! And definitely not the good bitchy. She flips out when Shane's ex pays a visit -- storming off all pissed and dramatic-like. Later that evening, Carmen completely ignores Shane and flirts with guys all night long.

    And speaking of guys . . . Tina tells Bette she had cyber sex with a guy. She also tells Bette about her attraction to men. Uh oh!

    Shane cheats on Carmen with her ex. And my oh my, what a hot scene that was. There was a lot of strap-on action in tonight's episode.

    Moira goes out as Max -- and she's packin'! Mmmm, mmmm. I discussed that scene with my girlfriend, hoping to plant a bug or two in her ear. **snicker**

    Backing up a bit. . . is it just me, or are a lot of men gettin' laid on the L[esbian] Word? Did anyone else notice that? WHAT THE FUCK? I suppose ya gotta get men to watch the show some kinda way, especially since the lesbian sex isn't porno-type-phoney-lesbian sex. Turn a few of the "lesbians" into bisexuals (or bi-curious) and give the poor bastards who think they have the power to convert lesbians something to dream about.

    I just had a thought. In keeping with the bisexual theme running quite strongly through this season: when will Angelina Jolie make an appearance on The L Word? Ha!

    That's my review for the week. More on The L Word next week.

    Update: SistersTalk reader MostExcellent reminded me of the boy/boy sex scene at the beginning of the episode. Ummm, I much prefer seeing the nun sex scenes at the beginning of the show. If I wanted to see straight folks or gay men having sex, I'd open up all the porn I have on my computer.

    I'm kinda confused about something. During one of the earlier episodes this season, Jenny had a discussion with her mother about her sexuality. She was telling her mother to tell her stepfather to stop setting her up with men. On this episode, we see her encourage Moira to explore her female-to-male (FTM) side. So, Jenny doesn't like biological men, but she's perfectly okay with dating a FTM? I know lots of lesbians who aren't interested in men, but they love FTMs. And I'm still confused about this new attitude the gang has towards Moira -- who is now openly exploring her masculine side. She can't be a proud butch, but she can be a proud FTM? What's up with that?

    Coming up next week: Carmen and Shane discuss monogamy. Dylan tells Helena she's straight.

    | # | The L Word and Tag: , , , . Word of the Day: excoriate
    Watch Those Disappointing Super Bowl Commercials -- Again!
    02.06.06 (10:28 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Note: My L Word review will be posted later.

    When the Super Bowl ended last night, I was completely disappointed. This year's Super Bowl commercials were horrible. I can remember the good ol' days when I laughed at every commercial aired during the Super Bowl. I remember when I was more excited about the commercials than I was about the game. This year, I actually watched the game (and I hate football!). I'm not sure what happened to the creative geniuses of yesterday, but this year, it looked like somebody's 13 year old was at the helm.

    If you missed the game (and the commercials), ya really didn't miss much. Even the Rolling Stones' performance was lukewarm. I suppose they wanted to avoid another boob slippage incident. Well, there were no boobs to be seen this year -- at least not during the halftime performance. Some of the commercials came pretty close though!

    Anyway, you can watch the Super Bowl commercials here -- compliments of Google Video.

    Oh, and if you want to know about the game itself, you can read a nice Super Bowl XL Review


    Bud Light: Hidden Bud Light

    Bud Light: Save Yourself

    Bud Light: On the Roof

    Bud Light: Secret Fridge

    Budweiser: Wave

    Budweiser: Superfan

    Budweiser: Clydesdale American Dream

    Blockbuster Online

    Burger King: America's Favorite

    Cadillac: Escalade

    Degree: Stunt City - extended version

    Dove: Campaign for Real Beauty Dove

    Emerald Nuts

    FedEx: Stick

    Ford: Escape Hybrid

    CocaCola: Full Thottle Energy

    Jerome Bettis: Asthma Control Test

    GM: Maize Alternative

    GoDaddy Steamy Car Wash

    GoDaddy: Window Washer

    Daddy: Can't Refuse

    Go Daddy: Kissing Booth

    Go Daddy: Approved Superbowl ad

    Honda Ridgeline: 2006 Motor Trend Truck of the Year

    Hummer: Monsters

    Michelob Amber: Touch Football

    MLB: Face the World

    Nationwide: Fabio Gondola

    Nationwide: Swing

    Nationwide: Proposal

    Pepsi: Hip Hop Can

    Pizza Hut: Jessica Simpson (has to be the WORST ad ever)

    Poseidon

    PS: Best Defence

    Scott Tissue: Mike Ditka Halftime Flush

    The Shaggy Dog

    Toyota: Camry Hybrid

    United Airlines: Dragon

    V for Vendetta

    Vault: Field of Dreams

    Vault: Scarecrow

    16 Blocks

    | # | General and Tag: , , . Word of the Day: excoriate
    The Corrs Have Done It Again With New Album Home
    02.03.06 (2:23 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    I received an advance copy of The Corrs' new studio album Home and was very impressed with the band's ability to make even a hip hop lover like me hit the repeat button over and over again.

    Home is a collection of 13 traditional and modern Irish songs that will feed any music lover's need for something completely outside the box. The album includes traditional Irish music that is at least 1,000 years old in addition to music written by Phil Lynott -- late frontman for Thin Lizzy and a fellow Irishman. Home will be released on February 7, 2006.

    My favorite tracks are "Black is the Colour" (track 4) and "Moorlough Shore" (track 8). The entire album is a collection of easy listening tracks that will help you completely unwind after a day of dealing with stupid co-workers. Other tracks include:


    1. My Lagan Love
    2. Spancill Hil
    3. Peggy Gordon
    4. Black is the Colour
    5. Heart Like a Wheel
    6. Buachaill On Eirne
    7. Old Hag
    8. Moorlough Shore
    9. Old Town
    10. Dimming of the Day
    11. Brid Og Ni Mhaille
    12. Haste to the Wedding
    13. Return To Fingal (missing track on the promo copy I have)

    And here's the best part: you can have a free copy of Home! Send me an email telling me why you just have to have this CD. The best answer wins my promo copy. If you don't win a copy, you can always order one.

    | # | Pop Culture and Tag: , , , , , , . Word of the Day: disparate
    Friday Link Whoring
    02.03.06 (10:23 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit



    Welcome to the very first Friday Link Whoring at SistersTalk!

    Every Friday I'll post an open thread designed to introduce new blogs -- or reintroduce blogs you may have forgotten about. Feel free to promote blogs, or point us to a blog post you think is worth mentioning. Yes, you can even promote yourself.

    Enjoy!


    | # | Link Whoring and Tag: blogging, , , . Word of the Day: disparate
    Help Secure Voting Rights for DC Residents
    02.02.06 (4:39 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Well, this has got to be one of the most creative ways to draw attention to an issue:

    Bid for Olympic Curling Team Casts a Stone for D.C. Voting Rights:

    This is the rare idea that developed over beers and blather at the neighborhood saloon, survived through a couple of years of bull sessions, and is now poised to reach toward reality. It started with this: Remember the night during the 2004 Summer Olympics when the U.S. men's basketball team lost to, of all opponents, Puerto Rico? When the guys hanging out at the Adams Mill Bar in Adams Morgan got over the initial embarrassment of that loss, somebody raised the question: Why exactly does Puerto Rico have an Olympic team?
    Whatever gets the job done, I say. As John Hlinko, of The Washington DC Olympic Curling Team says:


    This is an effort to creatively promote DC's lack of Congressional representation -- and we need all the help we can get. Most Americans don't even know that we have no voting representation. To put it in another context, we were all rightfully incensed when votes weren't counted in Florida, but when it comes to Congressional representation -- the voters of DC haven't had their votes counted in 200 years.


    Taxation without representation. That sounds like something to be pissed off about to me.

    Update: 8:30pm

    This stamp is part of the effort to secure voting rights for DC citizens. Click the stamp to learn more:



    | # | Politics and Tag: , . Word of the Day: parlous
    One-Stop Shopping for Marijuana and Snacks
    02.02.06 (3:45 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    This is just too damn funny:


    AMSTERDAM (Reuters) - The Dutch city of Groningen looks set to open the Netherlands' first pharmacy totally dedicated to providing high quality cannabis for pain relief at affordable prices, a newspaper reported Wednesday.

    Although cannabis is readily available in Dutch coffee shops, the foundation for Medicinal Cannabis Netherlands, a support group for patients, intends launching a pharmacy in the northern Dutch city so people can have access to high-grade cannabis for medical use, the daily NRC Handelsblad said.

    Groningen city council member Fleur Woudstra, who supports the cannabis pharmacy, told the paper that while pot may be cheaper in coffee shops -- usually around 10 euros ($12) for the equivalent of 3 or 4 joints -- quality often suffers.


    Source: I'm here for my prescription, and 6,000 cookies

    | # | General and Tag: . Word of the Day: parlous
    Black Lesbians Say What?
    02.02.06 (3:21 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    A must-read.

    | # | LGBT Issues and Tag: . Word of the Day: parlous
    Handgun and Hatchet Used in Attack at Gay Bar
    02.02.06 (12:19 pm) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    Police investigate attack at New Bedford gay bar:

    Police were searching for an 18-year-old man who allegedly attacked patrons of a gay bar early Thursday with a handgun and a hatchet, wounding at least three people in an apparent hate crime.


    I'm bracing myself for another anti hate crimes debate.

    Related: Teen Shoots Up Mass. Gay Bar, Police Say

    Man pulls machete, hatchet, gun on bar patrons

    I'm so glad I raised my kids better than that.

    I just had a thought. Maybe this kid has some mental health issues and this really isn't a hate crime at all. I mean, geezus, he's walking around with a machete, a hatchet, AND a gun. Where did he think he was? Iraq?

    Update: 02/06/06

    Suspect in Bar Attack Dies After Shootout

    | # | LGBT Issues and Tag: , . Word of the Day: parlous
    2005 Black Weblog Awards: Who Would've Thunk It?
    02.02.06 (11:50 am) posted by Genia vote for me on digg and reddit

    I'm waaaay late on this one, but during my daily scavenging of the blogosphere, I found yet another Weblog Awards site: 2005 Black Weblog Awards

    I had no idea there was any such award. Makes me wonder . . .

    Anyway, I started a collection of blogs written by African Americans, Africans, or Blacks. Take a look and PLEASE give the powers-that-be over at The Black Weblog Awards MORE bloggers to choose from in 2006. Geezus!

    | # | General and Tag: , . Word of the Day: parlous