In a startling revelation, the former commander of Abu Ghraib prison testified that Lt. Gen. Ricardo Sanchez, former senior US military commander in Iraq, gave orders to cover up the cause of death for some female American soldiers serving in Iraq.
Rape at Abu Ghraib was a big discussion for some time, but very few people discussed the female GIs raped by colleagues. Images of American soldiers raping female prisoners (link removed beause it re-routed to a porn site) made their rounds, but very few discussed what female GIs were dealing with:
Sexualized violence and harassment of women is a widespread problem within the US armed services, but according to a government investigation and testimony from numerous female soldiers who have been raped, assaulted and harassed by male soldiers, the Pentagon’s response has been woefully inadequate.
01.31.06 (12:23 pm) posted by Genia
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I recently had to tell a co-worker that I was no longer putting up with his snide remarks about my taste in music, my sexuality, or how I raise my children. He made it a habit to mutter comments under his breath as he passed my desk, or whenever I was within earshot of him. I finally looked him right in the face and told him I was tired of the comments and they would cease immediately. He reminded me of those bullies who cowar once you confront them. He was pretty quiet during the confrontation. The comments have stopped, but he's moved on to dumber things, doing them anonymously this time:
1. Placing my business cards all over the building in odd places. Is that NOT Jr. High school bullshit, or what?
2. Scratching through my name when he sees it in various places.
3. Moving the chairs from my desk and placing them at other people's desks. Everyone has more than enough chairs at their desks, but I'm sure this gives the old guy the exercise he needs.
4. Changing the radio station on the XM radio immediately after I set the station.
This is just a small sample of the things this guy does. You would think he's bored or something. A friend of mine said he just wants to sleep with me so he keeps annoying me to get my attention. Nah! I think he's just annoyed that there's a Black woman in the room who's not kissing his ass. The more I ignore him, the worse he gets. But, I don't plan to get into a pissing contest with this guy. Arguing with him is completely below me.
Coretta Scott King, Wife of Civil Rights Leader, Dies
01.31.06 (8:33 am) posted by Genia
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ATLANTA (AP) - Coretta Scott King, who turned a life shattered by her husband's assassination into one devoted to enshrining his legacy of human rights and equality, has died. She was 78. (Read more: Coretta Scott King Dies at 78
Alexandra Hedison on The L Word 3_4! And Moira Wants to be a Dude?
01.30.06 (9:53 am) posted by Genia
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It's incredibly hard to find photos of Alexandra Hedison without Ellen Degeneres accompanying her. Geezus.
Alexandra had a pretty uneventful first appearance on this week's The L Word. Helena and Tina met Dylan Moreland (played by Alexandra) at an opening for a documentary Helena was interested in funding. Helena immediately started drooling. It'll be interesting to watch Dylan and Helena heat up; they're both very beautiful women.
Bette went to Washington to speak before a panel of Senators who planned to cut government funding for the arts. That fiery temper of hers flared up when one Senator burned a piece of art -- calling it un-patriotic. Senator Barbara ("please, call me Barbara," she says) makes the moves on Bette after watching her rip the neo-fascist Senator a new ass. Bette sneaks off to the bathroom to call Tina and report the fact that Senator Barbara wants to fuck her. Tina doesn't care (or so it seems). After getting the iceberg treatment from Tina, Bette emerges from the bathroom, declines the Senator's offer of hot sex, and leaves.
Shane and Carmen look like they're headed for trouble. I can't figure out what Carmen's problem is. She had Shane in a dress, wearing hair weave, and pretending she's a straight chick -- and that STILL doesn't make her feel special. It sounds to me like Carmen is looking for drama and trouble where there really isn't any. Except for Carmen's little closet-issue.
Alice has officially surpassed Jenny as the most annoying character on the show. She couldn't find a single thing to talk about on her radio show since she wasn't allowed to talk about Dana anymore. When she got on her rant about George Bush's penis, I knew she'd finally (and completely) lost her mind.
Sidenote: I find, Laura, Dana's girlfriend, incredibly boring. She has to be the most life-less character on the show -- besides the props, that is.
The gang didn't like Moira at all when she talked about being butch, but when she shows up at a party for Dana -- all decked out in a man's suit -- they all just love her. Ponder that one for a second. I guess you can look the part (kinda like Shane has always looked the part) as long as you don't discuss it. Anywho, we learn Moira has thought about gender reassignment since she was a kid. Umm, why does this storyline not surprise me? Why can't the writers just give us a stone butch lesbian who isn't thinking about cuttin' her shit off -- FOR ONCE, please! Why must they be so cliche?
Coming up next week on The L Word: Tina finds herself attracted to men. Well, postpartum depression had to rear its ugly head somewhere! I'm just a bit annoyed that a show about lesbians has to have a self-identified lesbian falling for a guy right after she has a baby. It's the lamest way to bring in that issue. Anyway, Bette explores Buddhism -- and just might be getting a J-O-B. Alice is still nuts and has a date with a lesbian vampire. Try not to laugh. Dana gets bad news about her health. Moira goes out as Max. Shane gets a visit from an ex.
Ya know, I'm a little bothered that The L Word has tackled the issue of gender-politics twice (three times, four times?) since the show started but has YET to bring in a Black lesbian OR deal with the issue of racism running rampant in the lesbian community. It's kinda sad that, as a community, we are somehow able to open dialogue about everything but race.
01.27.06 (4:47 pm) posted by Genia
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I absolutely loved the first Big Momma's House. With Big Momma's House 2 set to open on January 27, fans and critics alike are getting ready to chat it up (once again) about fat politics.
In the first movie, we saw Martin Lawrence's character Malcolm Turner fall in love with sexy Sherry Pierce (played by Nia Long). Sidenote: Long is just as sexy in Are We There Yet?. Sweet Jesus! Anyway, Sherry's grandmother isn't quite as sexy. She's an obese, southern, Black woman who, apparently, has a very sassy attitude that Lawrence only amplifies with his antics.
I'm tossing around a few questions:
1. What's funnier about the movie? Big Momma's size, or the way Lawrence -- as a Black male -- potrays an obese, southern, Black female?
2. Would the movie work just as well if the character was thin? (Answer this only if you have seen -- or will see -- the movie).
3. Does Big Momma's House represent how society in general views obesity?
01.27.06 (3:01 pm) posted by Genia
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While browsing my recent visitors stats (something I rarely do), I noticed several visitors from Tennessee Guerilla Women -- who mentioned SistersTalk while discussing the recent 2005 Koufax Award Nominees. I've completely missed all the blog award hype so far this year, but I was quick enough to catch on to this one before voting was closed. Please, browse the list of nominees, read up, then vote!
First thing: of course a lot of jaded white folks -- and many conservative, I-wish-I-was-white Black folks, are going to say Affirmative Action is about one white person not giving another white person a job. These are the same white people who sat quietly by when white folks weren't giving perfectly qualified Blacks, Hispanics, Women, Asians, and disabled people a job. Quick reminder to the ill-informed: affirmative action isn't JUST about race, ya dumbasses! But go ahead and make the Black folks the scapegoat if that makes ya feel better.
Next: hiring qualified diverse candidates to perform in every department in your company will only give your company the competitive edge it needs to function in a global market. But, if white company executives want to continue to hire white men from good-ol-boy-land, who have no clue how to reach the millions of customers in all the diverse markets that exist, I say let those companies fall into the Fortune 1,000,000 junk pile for all we care. And THEN . . . we'll all be sitting in the unemployment line complaining about how many companies are outsourcing to India and China because the hot shot white executive had his head up his ass.
Of course, this article is about South Africa -- not the United States. Try not to laugh, everybody. Here, we have a white blogger complaining about Affirmative Action in SOUTH AFRICA! Why does that look incredibly ridiculous once I see it written down? I won't even get started on how it came to be that white folks are even in South Africa to begin with. And the fact that the rat bastard has the nerve to COMPLAIN about being a white person fucked over in SOUTH AFRICA is just unbelievable.
ST: How did you begin your career as a sex educator?
FN: I got into sex ed through Cleis Press. Many of the
really great sex guides, erotica collections and other books on
sexuality and gender have come from Cleis Press. I educated myself,
through San Francisco Sex Information, which has a
55-hour volunteer training, and Body Electric,
which offers classes in hands-on erotic massage. I learned from our
authors: Violet Blue, Tristan Taormino, Patrick Califia, Annie Sprinkle, Staci
Haines, Carol Queen.
By the way, that’s how I came to write The Whole Lesbian Sex Book
. I kept waiting for that
book to land on my desk at Cleis, but no one wrote it. So I did.
ST: Briefly describe what one should expect in a coaching session.
FN: Oh, I strip ‘em, throw ‘em onto my massage table, and shove my fist up
their pussies. Just kidding! I help my clients create sex lives that
really work for them. I want everyone to fully enjoy sex. I combine
basic sex education with somatic bodywork (fully clothed). Through
coaching, breathwork, self-observation, and simple movement exercises,
I guide clients toward the new skills, practices, and understandings
that will have them be thoroughly delighted with their sex lives. A lot
of this work can be done on the phone.
ST: Why does someone go to you?
FN: I had a client who had never been present during sex with an intimate
partner. One-time hook-ups were no problem, but as soon as she settled
into a relationship, she couldn’t be in her body during sex. She’d go
off in her head, have difficulty reaching orgasm. A few months of
working together took care of that problem.
People come to me for a lot of reasons. Want a list? Here goes: they
want to get their sexual needs and desires met, they want to invigorate
their libido, they want to talk to their partners about what is or
isn't working, their partners don’t want as much sex as they do (or
vice versa), they want to try something new, they don't understand why
or how they get triggered during sex, they can't sustain sexual
interest once a relationship moves beyond the early stages of dating,
they have difficulty reaching orgasm, their sexual functioning has been
impacted by depression and/or the antidepressants they take to
alleviate it. Some are survivors of sexual trauma.
Here’s a wonderful reason to come see me: you and your partner are
getting married and you want to design a sexual partnership that will
not just last but get better over the years.
I think Lesbian Bed Death is bullshit, by the way. Not that it doesn’t
happen, just that there’s nothing uniquely lesbian about it. And naming
it as a phenomenon has made it rather self-fulfilling. That’s not
necessary. If you and your partner have stopped having sex, and you
want to get the juices flowing, I can help you make that happen.
ST: What percentage of your clientelle is heterosexual, bisexual, gay,
lesbian, and transgendered?
FN: Most of my clients are lesbians, but I also see heterosexual men and
women.
ST: We had a debate on SistersTalk once in which we discussed the
possibility that women had just as many -- if not more --one-night
stands as men did by the time they were 35. Care to weigh in on
that?
FN: If it’s true, it makes me very happy!
ST: In your "Whole Lesbian Sex" column, you've written about everything
from lesbian fellatio to anal massage for lesbians. How do you decide
what you will write about?
FN: I wrote the column on lesbian fellatio because your readers requested
it! Sometimes conversations with clients get me thinking about things,
like the recent column on masturbating with a partner. (Which I
recommend highly.) My partner often inspires my writing – watch for the
Valentine’s Day column and you’ll see what I mean.
ST: Did you notice the new lesbian sex therapist (played by Kate
Clinton) on The L Word looks like you?
FN: No way – I don’t have a red ball on the end of my nose.
ST: I meet lots of lesbians who have an aversion to strap-ons. The
typical comment is "if I wanted to be with a man, I would just do
that." Any comments?
FN: Everyone is permitted a preference. If you don’t like the sensation of
penetration with a dildo, strapped on or not, that’s fine. Go for what
you do like. However, if you are passing on strap-on play because it’s
imitative of heterosexual sex, you may be missing out on something
pleasurable. As Susie Bright said many years ago, fucking is no more
heterosexual than kissing.
ST: On your website, you have a link to LesbianSTD. It's my belief
that lesbians are just as susceptible to STDs as straight women. Would
you agree?
FN: Yes. Lesbians are particularly susceptible to herpes and HPV. We can
also share bacterial infections, so if your honey has a vaginal
bacterial infection, you should get checked, too.
01.23.06 (8:52 pm) posted by Genia
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We're seeing serious issues come up as Dana is faced with the possibibilty that she might have breast cancer. Dana's breast cancer scare addressed an important issue: women who don't have regular check-ups because they don't feel comfortable visiting male gynecologists. Last week, Dana missed an appointment her girlfriend Laura scheduled for her because she didn't want a man looking up her vagina (that's not exactly the word Dana used). This week, she visited Bette's female doctor.
Alice is still completely obsessed with Dana. So obsessed, she's talking about her constantly on her radio show. She's a hair away from losing her job.
Tina seems really annoyed with Bette. Actually, she reminds me of a cheatin' wife who's just lookin' for an excuse to hate on her partner. Is it just me, or does Tina seem really inattentive and unsupportive? It seems Tina has forgotten she was a housewife who didn't work for quite some time! Funny how that works.
Now, let's talk about how poorly the cliche lesbians behaved as it relates to the way they dealt with Moira when they met her. They didn't like how butch Moira was. Stone-butch, they called her. Just because they don't talk much about the whole butch/femme dynamic, doesn't mean they don't live it. Bette and Tina definitely live it. Bette is the butch and Tina is the femme, in the sense that Bette took care of Tina -- down to controlling her life for many years. I know many people will disagree with that, but that's the way I see it. Butch/femme is more than a look. At least to me it is. Shane and Carmen are definitely a butch/femme couple. It was just a shame to see how judgemental most of them were. The fact that closeted-Carmen-who-made- Shane-pretend-to-be-strai ght-around-her-family had the nerve to be hard on Moira, well. . . that was good for a laugh! And Dana-I-cheated-on-my-fian cee-with-my-best-friend, really should've kept her mouth shut. I suppose if Jenny was fuckin' one of the group, AS USUAL -- you know, being all incenstuous and all -- it would sit just fine with the rest of them. HA! I'm tellin' ya, lesbian groups DO NOT like it when outsiders intrude. They much prefer it when the lovin' stays inside the family.
Enough of that.
Kit is hot for Bette and Tina's Nanny. She calls him "Mangus." That bothers me a bit. You would think the writers would give Kit a better love interest. Whatever happened to . . . what was his name? The transgendered guy/girl she liked last season?
Oh yeah, about the nuns on the bus. Holy shit! There are nuns reading lesbian erotica and fingering each other on a bus trip. Ha! One of those nuns looked like the same nun who was having sex in the alley at the beginning of episode two. Ya know, my ex girlfriend's mother was a nun for a very short time, but was booted out of the convent after she hurt herself. My ex always said she thought her mother was a lesbian, but got married because society wanted her to get married. I can't wait to see the opening scene next week.
Update:
I had to come back to this post after thinking about it for a little while. What we really saw in this episode was a classic case of classism -- uppity LA lesbians acting like they're better than the lesbian from the midwest who is "from a place where she feels the need to identify" because obviously lesbians in LA don't identify because they're too busy fuckin' their best friends, cheatin' on their partners, hangin' out in trendy coffee shops, listenin' to god awful music, cuttin' up their bodies, planning weddings just for the fun of it, practicing attachment parenting, and pretending all lesbians are a size 3. Someone once said that the lesbians in The L Word were the new gay man. I would certainly have to agree with that. Egotistical. Self-righteous. Self-absorbsed. And STILL in need of a MAJOR dose of reality. WHERE are the fuckin' black lesbians, for christ's sakes!?
Lesbian Film Imagine Me and You Opening January 27
01.20.06 (2:03 pm) posted by Genia
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I stumbled upon this movie about a bride who falls in love with a woman on her wedding day (Movie: Imagine Me and You).
Piper Peabo, aspiring singer/songwriter from Coyote Ugly, falls in love with Lena Headey on the day she's supposed to marry her male high school sweetheart. The movie opens on January 27 in select theaters.
I haven't seen Ang Lee's Brokeback Mountain yet because it's not showing in my town. That opened in select theaters, too.
By "select theaters," does that mean theaters in cities that aren't run by neo-fascists?
01.19.06 (2:19 pm) posted by Genia
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I'm so sorry this post is late, but I was trying to wait until my blog host got a few things straight (like fixing all these damn bugs in our blogs).
No excuses, on with the review.
It's official. I've fallen in love with Daniela Sea (Moira), the girl who plays Jenny's new love interest. She's very sexy, but it took a second (and third) look at her to finally reach that conclusion. The girl I'm dating now kinda reminds me of Daniela, except she's blonde. At any rate, we get to see that Moira is a female coke head who pees standing up. How DOES she do that!? The peeing standing up thing, not the coke. We also see Jenny whip out a taser gun and defend her sexy knight-in-shining armor after the two of them are gay bashed in redneck-town America.
Bette and Tina are still having marital problems. Perhaps it has something to do with Tina hangin' out on the internet having cyber sex with strangers? That's just my guess!
I had to look up D'Angelo's song Feel Like Making Love after I heard it playing in the background during a Carmen/Shane strip tease scene. The song made the scene super hot. I swear, I can't stand the music on The L Word -- unless they do something like tossing in great neo soul like D'Angelo.
We see Alice'sDana-Shrine and (I don't know about you, but) I thought it was just so fuckin' pathetic. It was nice to watch Helena try to save Alice from herself by making her remove the shrine. She got to keep the life-size cut-out of Dana though. Maybe by the end of the season, the cut-out will be gone, too?
Kit's son (I forget his name) refuses to help Bette and Tina with the adoption social worker. He's against gays raising children. Apparently, he's against cross-dressers as well. "Freaks," he called them.
Backing up to Carmen and Shane: I was completely disgusted that Carmen had Shane wear a dress to the Quinceanera celebration. Carmen is closeted around her family and she's making (is making a good word?) Shane hide in the closet, too. Shane looked completely ridiculous in that dress. But, she got a great strip tease out of the deal. I get the feeling Carmen's gonna have to come out that closet soon, or risk losing Shane.
As for the temperature of the second episode for this season: still lukewarm. I did enjoy the opening scene where we see a female approach two men having sex in a dark alley and ask where she could find a woman to have sex with. I believe the year was 1969? Correct me if I'm wrong. It really shows how far the LGBT community has gotten since then; however, when we see Jenny and Moira gay bashed in small-town America in the year 2006, I have to wonder how much progress we've really made.
Is it possible that someone somewhere has the idea that maybe, just maybe, it will take a woman to fix what ails the world. The US needs to start developing that mindset. And fast!
The head of the U.N. mission in Liberia, Alan Doss, calls it a momentous occasion for Liberia, founded for freed American slaves in the 19th century, but recently ravaged by 25 years of conflict, corruption, rebel and military rule.
"I think it marks the end of a chapter, a very sad chapter, in the history of this country, the first independent African republic, and it also marks the opening of a new chapter. That chapter has yet to be written, obviously, but I think the promise is good," he said.
He also said having Africa's first elected female head-of-state marked an important moment in women's emancipation.
As much as I would like to believe we'll see a female president in this country, I think too many issues keep women from working together to make that happen. Combine that with the fact that white men (and men in general) have mastered the art of divide and conquer, I just wonder how long it'll be before women in the US are smart enough to actually work together -- putting race, social class, and sexuality aside.
1. Sarasota, Fla. 2. Lawrence, Kan. 3. Little Rock, Ark. 4. Atlanta 5. Las Vegas 6. Dallas 7. Houston 8. San Juan, Puerto Rico 9. Santa Monica, Calif. 10. Flagstaff, Ariz. 11. San Francisco 12. Chicago 13. San Antonio 14. New York City 15. Austin, Texas 16. Anchorage, Alaska 17. Phoenix 18. Los Angeles 19. St. Louis 20. Pittsburgh
Cities are ranked according to how frequently residents resort to using the police to deal with homeless people sleeping in public spaces. It would seem to me that cities with large tourist populations would be the ones that utilize police most often; however, I don't see Little Rock, AK as a big tourist attraction.
01.09.06 (12:45 pm) posted by Genia
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No, this blog is not turning into a queer blog that does nothing but gossip about celebrities. I just had to mention this: Pink has taken an enormous leap of faith and married a dude gotten married. All this time, I thought she was gay. That girl certainly is misunderstood.
I guess her name's not Pink anymore since her hair is now brown . . . or sometimes blonde.
01.08.06 (10:38 pm) posted by Genia
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One of my readers said it best, "looks like that fucking horrid song is still opening up the L word." I was really hoping there would be a new theme song. Oh well.
Alice is losin' her damn mind -- pullin' that stereotypical lesbian stalker stuff. Her recent (or not so recent, if you remember how crazy she acted last season) fragile emotional state was prompted by Dana leaving her for an ex-lover. Big surprise there. Alice is now poppin' so many medications you have to wonder if she's comin' or goin'. The writers are movin' her into the arms of equally insane Helena -- the one Tina dated last season. I've always said lesbians run in packs of incestuous groupings. Reminders: Shane first slept with Carmen, then Jenny> slept with Carmen. Oh yeah, Alice slept with Bette once, too.
Tina and Bette have reconciled, but they're having issues in the bedroom. They're seeing a sex therapist (played by Kate Clinton -- an awesome comedienne. Ya gotta see her in person if you ever get the chance. ) I thought it was too funny they were calling each other "Mama B" and "Mama T". The new mommies are also worried about Bette's chances of legally adopting the baby, since Tina is the biological mommy and the social worker is a cranky bitch who, apparently, needs a good fuck to put a smile on her face.
Jenny met a new girl -- who looks so much like a guy that it took a long time for me to figure out it was really a girl. It's nice to see Jenny has finally dealt with her issues. Maybe, just maybe, her character won't be so pathetic this season.
Kit hit menopause. Umm... Not sure where to go with that. Well, I guess it's a good way to hit on another ISM for the feminists: AGEISM.
I wasn't all that impressed with the season premiere. I thought it fell flat. It was nice to see Shane and Carmen in love and actually acting on it, but we knew that was coming from season 2's finale.
As far as I'm concerned, people who drink and drive should be tarred and feathered and run out of town on a rail. And if you kill someone behind the wheel, you should have your hands cut off to prevent you from ever driving a car again. I come to this hard-line the hard way.
In the late 80s I lost my first girlfriend to a drunk driver. Lisa Marie West and her cousin Lisa Ann were riding in their truck two blocks from my house when they pulled out on to US1 and were hit from behind by a car traveling at an estimated 80 mph. My friend's cousin was decapitated and died instantly, and my girlfriend was horribly mangled, only living for about eight hours before dying in the hospital.
The driver was a foreign national who fled the country after the Broward sheriff's office allowed him to be released on bail within hours of the accident. I still have a picture of this individual that I acquired from BSO. Should I ever run across this person anywhere in the world I won't hesitate to exact my personal version of justice upon him, and I won't be merciful.
A few years prior to this, another girlfriend of mine, Alicia Story, was walking across US1 after leaving a nightclub and was struck by a car traveling at a high rate of speed. She later died in the hospital. This hit-and-run went unsolved for more than three years until the woman driving the car was later apprehended after fleeing the scene of another hit-and-run, with a blood alcohol level of .29. She was eventually tried and convicted of leaving the scene of an accident with injuries to which she received probation. Not exactly what I'd call justice.
In the late 90s a local FBI agent left a local sports bar after drinking a large amount of beer. He wound up getting on interstate I-95 going in the wrong direction and had a head-on collision with two young men killing them both. He survived with broken wrists and proceeded to convince the Florida state troopers that the other car was traveling in the wrong direction, after a lengthy investigation and protracted trial he received 90 days in jail. Disgusting!
In Florida we have the 10-20-life law for people who commit crimes with firearms. I'd like to see something similar enacted for drunk drivers, because it seems that the only way these people will ever receive justice is if we have some kind of mandatory minimums.
When I was 12 years old, a friend of mine died on Christmas Day. He was out riding his new bike and a drunk driver -- leaving a Christmas gathering at a house a few blocks away -- struck him. He died instantly. To this day I'm paranoid about drunk drivers. It's hard for me to even allow my own kids to ride their bikes around town. They tell me. "Mom, we'll be careful. We're not stupid." They may not be stupid, but there are a lot of stupid drivers out there.
Personally, I think this is a good idea:
A new Tennessee law is enlisting the power of shame to discourage drunken driving -- even though law enforcement, the governor and various experts are calling it an expensive and bad idea.
Starting Sunday, convicted drunken drivers are required to spend 24 hours cleaning roadsides while wearing orange vests emblazoned with the phrase "I am a Drunk Driver."
The only problem I have with this is the new law isn't being used to shame wife beaters, sex offenders, and child abusers. I'd love to see a pedophile cleaning the highway, wearing a vest that says, "I'm a sexual deviant. I prey on little children."